Hey goddess, pull up a chair because we’re about to have a heart-to-heart, sister to sister, queen to queen. Today, we’re talking about one of the biggest blockages to living our most radiant lives: self-doubt. That sneaky little voice that whispers, “You can’t,” “You’re not enough,” or “Who do you think you are?” It’s time to shut that voice down and remind ourselves just how powerful we truly are. We’re going to kick self-doubt to the curb, step into our main character energy mindset, and start living fearlessly.
But here’s the thing, sis—this journey isn’t about becoming someone different. It’s about peeling back the layers of doubt, fear, and body shame to reveal the fierce, empowered goddess that’s been there all along. So buckle up, because we’re about to dive deep into some shadow work, reclaim our feminine power, and learn how to embody pleasure like the divine queens we are.
Step 1: Confronting the Shadows—Because Even Goddesses Have to Get Messy
Before we can unleash the full force of our goddess energy, we’ve got to get real about the doubts and insecurities holding us back. Enter: shadow work for women. I know it sounds heavy, but trust me, this is where the magic happens. Shadow work is all about facing the parts of ourselves that we’ve tried to hide—our fears, our past wounds, our limiting beliefs.
You know that feeling when you’re scrolling through social media and suddenly feel like you’re not measuring up? Yeah, that’s part of your shadow. Or when you look in the mirror and cringe because all you can see are your perceived flaws? That’s body shame casting its ugly shadow over you.
But here’s the deal: those shadows only have power as long as we ignore them. So, let’s shine a big ol’ goddess-sized spotlight on them. Grab a journal, and start by asking yourself some deep questions:
- Where does my self-doubt come from?
- What stories have I been telling myself about my worth?
- How has body shame influenced how I see myself?
Be honest, but also be kind. The goal here is to heal from the shame, not punish yourself for having it. By bringing these shadows into the light, we begin the process of healing from body shame and making space for the goddess energy that’s been dying to come through.
Step 2: Reclaiming Your Feminine Power—Because You’ve Had It All Along
Sister, I need you to hear this loud and clear: you are powerful beyond measure. Yes, even on the days when you feel small, when you’re doubting yourself, or when that negative body image creeps in. Your power has always been there; it’s just been hidden under layers of conditioning, self-doubt, and external noise.
Reclaiming feminine power isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been. It’s about stepping out of the shadows and owning the full, unfiltered, unapologetic version of yourself.
How do we start reclaiming that power? By refusing to play small. By setting boundaries that honor our energy. By speaking up when something doesn’t align with our truth. And by embracing the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide—our sensuality, our intuition, our deep connection to pleasure.
Because guess what? The embodiment of pleasure is part of your power. We’ve been conditioned to think that pleasure is something to be earned, or that it’s selfish to prioritize our own joy. But pleasure is your birthright, sis. Whether it’s the simple pleasure of enjoying a slow morning with your favorite cup of coffee, or the deeper pleasure of connecting with your body in ways that feel good—pleasure is fuel for your feminine power.
Start by asking yourself: What brings me joy? What makes me feel alive? Then do more of that. Every time you choose pleasure, you’re stepping back into your power.
Step 3: Shifting Into Main Character Energy—Because You Are the Star of This Show
Okay, it’s time to channel that main character energy mindset. You know what I’m talking about—the mindset where you stop waiting for permission to be fabulous, stop shrinking to make others comfortable, and start living your life like the bold, radiant goddess you are.
Think about your favorite movie. Does the main character walk around doubting herself, apologizing for taking up space, or playing second fiddle in her own story? Hell no! She owns her space, she walks with purpose, and she knows she’s the star. Now it’s time for you to do the same.
But how do you make this shift? It’s not about arrogance or pretending to be someone you’re not. It’s about recognizing that you’re worthy of taking up space, of living loudly, of being seen and celebrated. Start treating your life like it’s your movie—because it is. Take the risks, make the bold choices, and don’t be afraid to go after what you want. You’re not just a background character in someone else’s story. You’re the star, babe.
Step 4: Overcoming Negative Body Image—Because Your Body Is Sacred
Now, let’s get real for a moment about overcoming negative body image. We live in a world that constantly tells us we need to look a certain way to be beautiful, successful, or worthy. But let me tell you something, goddess: those standards? Total nonsense.
Your body is a sacred vessel, no matter its shape, size, or scars. It carries your spirit, your strength, and your story. And that’s worth celebrating. So, how do we start shifting from body shame to body love?
- Gratitude: Every morning, instead of critiquing what you see in the mirror, start by thanking your body. Thank it for carrying you through your day, for holding your heart, for breathing, moving, and existing. Gratitude is the first step to shifting your mindset.
- Affirmations: Speak love into your body every day. “I honor my body as it is.” “My body is worthy of love and care.” “I am beautiful, powerful, and whole.”
- Pleasure Practices: Connect with your body in ways that feel good. Whether that’s through movement, touch, or simply dressing in clothes that make you feel fabulous—prioritize the things that make you feel alive in your skin.
Healing from body shame isn’t about waking up one day and suddenly loving everything you see. It’s a process, a journey of unlearning the toxic messages we’ve been fed and replacing them with love, compassion, and acceptance.
Step 5: Living Fearlessly—She Believed She Could, So She Did
So here we are, sis. We’ve done the shadow work, we’ve reclaimed our feminine power, we’ve stepped into main character energy, and we’re overcoming that negative body image. Now what?
Now, we live fearlessly.
Living fearlessly doesn’t mean we won’t ever feel fear. It means we don’t let that fear stop us. It means we trust ourselves enough to know that even when the doubts creep in, even when things get hard, we have everything we need within us to keep going.
When that little voice of self-doubt pops up and says, “Who do you think you are?” You say, “I’m a freaking goddess, that’s who.”
You’re powerful, you’re worthy, and you’ve got this. Now go out there and live your life like the fearless queen you were born to be. She believed she could—so she did.